The Courage to Feel

Many people repeat to themselves, “I am going to change.”
They say it in the morning. They write it in journals. They whisper before sleeping.

And yet nothing happens.

When this occurs, it is tempting to conclude that the change itself is wrong, unrealistic, or unreachable. But the truth is often quieter and more confronting:

It is not that the change is wrong. It is that we are not allowing ourselves to feel.

We try to change from the head while the body remains in defense. The mind creates new narratives, new plans, new intentions but the nervous system is still holding the old fears, the old grief, the old tension. And if the body feels unsafe, it will not move forward, no matter how intelligent or sincere the plan is.

Avoided emotion does not disappear. It becomes stored energy. And stored energy becomes stagnated.

This is why nothing shifts when feeling is avoided. Change requires movement, and movement requires energy. Emotion is energy. When emotion is blocked, energy is blocked. When energy is blocked, life becomes repetitive.

We often learn, consciously or unconsciously, that feeling is dangerous. That makes us vulnerable, irrational, or weak. So, we contain ourselves. We manage ourselves. We control ourselves.

But control is not transformation.

Transformation is what happens when we allow ourselves to experience what is already present sadness, anger, fear, longing, joy without trying to suppress it, justify it, or escape it.

Feeling is not a weakness.
It is the doorway through which truth passes.

When we allow ourselves to feel, something subtle but powerful occurs. The body relaxes. The nervous system softens. Energy begins to flow again. What was frozen becomes fluid. What was heavy became processable. What was unconscious becoming conscious.

And at that moment, change no longer needs to be forced.

It begins to happen.

Not because we demanded it, but because we made space for it.

This is the paradox of transformation: we do not change by trying harder. We change by becoming more honest with our sensations, our emotions, our needs, and our limits.

When you allow yourself to feel, you are no longer fighting for yourself.

And when the internal war ends, life starts to reorganize naturally around truth instead of defense.

Then, yes…

Everything begins to work out not because the world suddenly becomes easier, but because you are no longer resisting yourself within it.

That is where real change begins.

Written by: Rosario A. Zaragoza, MLS & PP

“If you don't speak, you would never go forward.”

Written exclusively for Master Hypnotist and Complete Mind Therapist Chuck DeBroder and Lightning Hypnosis ⚡

Written by: Rosario A. Zaragoza, MLS & PP

“If you don't speak, you will never go forward.”

Written exclusively for Master Hypnotist and Complete Mind Therapist Chuck DeBroder and Lightning Hypnosis ⚡

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