Ego: Friend or Enemy?

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself, what is ego? We often hear the word thrown around, sometimes celebrated, sometimes criticized but do we truly understand what it is? Ego can be described as that voice inside us that seeks recognition, validation, and control. It shapes how we see ourselves and how we want others to see us. But is it really us? Or is it a mask we wear to feel safe and significant?

How do we know when ego is running our lives? Notice the moments when you are overly defensive, when criticism feels like a personal attack, or when your worth depends on comparison. These are signs that ego has taken the driver’s seat. Ego thrives on external approval. It feeds on being right, being admired, being in control. And yet, it is never satisfied.

So, is ego our friend or our enemy? Perhaps it can be both. Ego can motivate us to grow, to achieve, to create. But it can also blind us to our true selves, chaining us to fear of judgment and the need for superiority. It is a double-edged sword tool when conscious, a tyrant when unconscious.

Where does the ego come from? Most likely, it begins in childhood as a survival mechanism. We build an identity to protect ourselves from pain and rejection. Over time, this identity becomes so strong that we confuse it with our true being.

How many types of ego exist? Some speak of different forms: the arrogant ego, the victim ego, the people-pleasing ego. Each wears a different mask but shares the same root a deep sense of separation and fear.

The bigger question is: What are we feeding? Are we nourishing our ego, or are we feeding our hearts? Do our actions come from love, compassion, and authenticity, or are they driven by the need to prove ourselves?

Can ego kill authenticity? Absolutely. When we are enslaved by ego, we act according to expectations, not essence. We perform roles, but we lose touch with our inner truth. And yet, behind the ego, there is a deeper self-peaceful, whole, and free.

Is the ego’s function simply to accumulate achievements, possessions, and recognition to cover unconscious pain? For many, yes. The ego seeks to fill an inner emptiness, but the void remains until we awaken to who we truly are beyond our roles and titles.

Living with ego as the master often means living automatically, reacting instead of responding, dominated by quiet dissatisfaction. The more we identify with the ego, the more disconnected we feel from our spiritual essence. As if a cloud blocks the sun, the ego eclipses the radiance of who we truly are.

So, the question remains: Will you let your ego rule you, or will you step into awareness and authenticity? Perhaps the key is not to destroy the ego, but to recognize it, observe it, and let it serve rather than enslave you.

In the silence beyond ego, your true self awaits.

Written by: MLS & PP Rosario A. Zaragoza 

“If you don't speak, you would never go forward.” 

Written exclusively for Master Hypnotist and Complete Mind Therapist Chuck DeBroder and Lightning Hypnosis ⚡   

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