Are You a Victim of Your Own Choices?
Are You a Victim of Your Own Choices?
Do you ever feel like life is happening to you, rather than because of you? Do setbacks, disappointments, or frustrations seem to always have someone else to blame? If so, you’re not alone, but there’s a crucial truth most people avoid blaming others for stealing your power.
Why We Love to Play the Victim
Blaming others is easier than facing our own choices. It offers a false sense of comfort, a way to avoid guilt, regret, or the hard work of self-reflection. Yet, every time we point a finger outward, we give away control over our lives. Living as a victim feels safe, but it quietly steals freedom, growth, and fulfillment.
Ask yourself:
When something goes wrong, do I pause and ask, “What part did I play in this?”
Do I feel relief when I blame someone else? Or does it leave me empty, frustrated, or stuck?
Living in the Past vs. Embracing the Present
Many people live in yesterday’s pain, replaying mistakes, slights, or regrets. The past feels familiar; it’s safe, even comforting, but it’s also a cage. Life is happening right now, yet we often walk through it like zombies, caught in memories that no longer serve us.
Try this today:
Notice one moment you dwell on a past hurt. Ask: How does reliving this help me now?
Shift your attention to the present. Even small actions, feeling your breath, noticing your surroundings, pull you into life instead of into memory.
Walking Corpses: Emotional Disengagement
Living without awareness, without feeling, is like being a walking corpse. It’s the natural result of blame, regret, and avoidance. People who avoid responsibility often disconnect from their emotions, choosing passivity over action.
Signs you might be a walking corpse:
You go through daily routines automatically, without passion or curiosity.
You often replay grievances instead of engaging with solutions.
The antidote? Conscious engagement. Notice your emotions. Make deliberate choices. Take responsibility, even for small things. Life awakens when we stop blaming, stop reliving the past, and stop existing on autopilot.
Reflective Questions for You
What is one area of your life where you blame others instead of owning your choices?
How often do you relive the past instead of fully engaging with today?
What small step could you take right now to reconnect with life and your emotions?
Freedom, power, and fulfillment are not given, they are claimed. Every time you take responsibility, live in the present, and engage with your emotions, you step off the path of victimhood and into your own life. Don’t wait for life to happen to you. Live it. Own it. Be awake.
The world doesn’t need any more emotional corpses.
The world needs people who are alive, aware, and at peace, people who bring presence, compassion, and responsibility into everything they do. That’s how real change begins, not only in our own lives, but in the lives of everyone we touch.
“We cannot stop others from hurting us. But we can decide what to build from the hurt:
a prison of bitterness, or a path toward wisdom.”
Written by: MLS & PP Rosario A. Zaragoza
“If you don't speak, you would never go forward.”
Written exclusively for Master Hypnotist and Complete Mind Therapist Chuck DeBroder and Lightning Hypnosis ⚡
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